- At work, we can count on you to:
A. Leave your affects at the door of your office.
B. Say aloud what everyone thinks in a whisper.
C. Remember “old files”.
D. Better manage your energy and your time.
- A colleague neglects your repeated requests:
A. You end up telling him his four truths.
B. You are talking to someone else.
C. You will give him change one of these days.
D. You ask him gently but firmly.
- In the schoolyard, child, you were the type to:
A. Play in your corner.
B. Follow the leader.
C. Listen to your desires of the moment.
D. To be leader of the group.
- Your susceptibility threshold is:
A. Rather high.
B. Very high.
C. Very low.
- When you have something on your heart:
A. You make it known ruthlessly.
B. You are overcoming your grievances.
C. You let slip, it will pass.
D. You say it clearly and firmly.
- What do you say after suffering an unjustified reproach?
A. You will pay me.
B. You react immediately.
C. It’s pure bad faith.
D. That’s his problem, not mine.
- Noisy neighbors parasitize your coffee break in the sun:
A. Excited, you shorten your break before exploding.
B. You curse them silently, your break is ruined.
C. You say that it does not matter and you think so sincerely.
D. You focus on the warmth of the sun on your face.
- How do you react to arrogant people?
A. You are trying to stick to factual exchanges.
B. You try to slap the cackling.
C. You proceed as with others, they do not make you hot or cold.
D. You discuss their behavior with your loved ones.
- Two of your friends are stuck in a stupid conflict, how do you react?
A. You intervene to bring peace.
B. You propose as mediator.
C. You obviously do not meddle with it.
D. You deplore the situation without daring to intervene.
- What is the fault that irritates you the most in others?
A. The lack of reliability.
B. The absence of franchise.
C. The absence of discernment.
D. The absence of delicacy.
- What do you think is the positive side of anger?
A. It invites you to reflect on yourself.
B. It allows not to be allowed to do.
D. It can be a driver for action.
- Your relationships with others are rather placed under the sign of:
A. The distance.
B. The cordiality.
D. The affection.
- What do you say to calm the anger of a loved one in conflict with a third party?
A. You are wasting your energy for nothing.
B. Do not let yourself go.
C. Look for his weak point.
D. Why does it affect you so much?
- If your anger was an animal, it would be one:
- Spontaneously, for you, emotion rhymes with:
- Advice ; She has no hold on you
- You are one of those rare people who say they are angry when they are upset. That we can explode, you exceed.
- You receive the aggression of others by instantly setting distance.
- You become an observer of the scene at the same time as you live it.
- You have trouble expressing your emotions and often expressing your feelings.
- Emotional desensitization is not self-control, it is a very expensive protection on the psychological level.
- It removes salt from life by reducing its flavor and warmth. Without emotions felt and manifested, what becomes of our bonds, our desire, our joy of living?
Advice: Practice qualifying your basic emotions (“I am angry, sad, happy …”) and try to perceive how they express themselves in your body.
The better you identify your emotions, the better you will understand them and the better you will know how to live with them without repressing them, without allowing yourself to overflow.
You have extroverted and noisy anger. Susceptible to the extreme, you can not stand to feel assaulted. You also use your emotional extraversion as a preventive threat: you show teeth to dissuade your interlocutor.
Very often, this strategy pays off. These explosive anger reassure you about your ability to make you respect.
But this security can be illusory, because they can be, especially in the professional environment, considered as an inability to control themselves.
They can also, over time, lose their deterrent power. Besides, an explosion of anger is always emotionally demanding.
Advice: When you feel anger rising, pause the discussion, leave the room and go for a drink of water