In Decoding the gesture of your interlocutor , teaches us to decrypt the language of the body and face.
Legs and feet
Crossed legs sitting position
Crossed legs are a sign of defense. This position is also prohibited by the protocol to the Court of England.
Legs crossed at the knee:
classic position that induces decency and education.
Legs crossed in the American style ankle resting on the knee of the other leg : denotes either relaxation or a need for competition.
Doubly crossed legs: sign of self-protection.
Legs folded under the chair:
shows that the person is shy or does not understand everything that is said to him.
Cross-legged standing betray shyness, reserve.
A person who kicks is bored or exasperated.
The tip of the foot unconsciously refers to the person with whom you want to talk. If the foot does not point anyone, it is because the interlocutor is not interested in the discussion or the individual.
If you intervene in a discussion between two people (their parallel feet facing each other) and their spikes do not open, it is that you are not wanted in the conversation.
Hands stuck between the legs denote a lack of self-confidence, a need to withdraw.
Playing with your fingers or an object betrays a certain nervousness, an anxiety, a feeling of unease.
Hands crossed indicate a need for protection, for hindsight. And the higher they are, the more dissatisfied the speaker is.
Hands joined in a triangle: if the point is upwards, it is a sign of action; if it is directed downwards, it is a sign of listening.
Playing with a lock of hair can express doubt, hesitation, boredom or seduction.
Index on temple, thumb under chin indicate boredom or assessment.
Pulling the earlobe with your fingers shows doubt and boredom.
The index on the tip of the nose denotes a question.
In sitting position
- The bust leaning forward denotes interest, involvement, a desire for action.
- The back bust betrays a lack of involvement, a lack of interest in what is said.
- The basin glued to the back of the chair reveals a certain formalism.
- Are bust and drooping shoulders indicate physical or mental fatigue and indicate disappointment.
- The bust and the straight shoulders show pride, dignity and courage.
- The bulging torso denotes an egocentric, almost contemptuous character.
The swinging betrays a desire to leave or to put away. The position in support on the hip also reveals these feelings, but can also signal a simple need to rest. Hands on the hips indicate a desire to seduce.
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The direction taken by the eye speaks volumes about the interlocutor’s thoughts:
- Top left: the reflection is on a déjà-vu.
- In the middle, in the wave: the person doubts, she wonders.
- Bottom left: she tries to choose, she indulges in an internal dialogue.
- In the middle on the left: she understands.
Dilated pupils translate positive emotions, interest, availability – which can betray an attraction. On the contrary, retracted pupils betray negative emotions such as fear, indifference, disgust, lies …
How to recognize a sincere smile and a hypocritical smile? The sincere smile remains a few seconds on the face once the origin of the grin flew away. On the contrary, the command smile immediately disappears. Similarly, if it is normal to show your teeth from the top when you smile sincerely, the smiles that show all the teeth (like our dear Hollywood stars) are often fake.
The inclination of the head
In a natural way, the head is mostly inclined. A good point, which allows to guess the “emotional state” of the interlocutor. When inclined to the right, it refers to the rational pole; tilted to the left, it makes more appeal to the emotional.
When the head is kept high, almost rigid, it conveys an assurance, a self-confidence, which can go as far as contempt. Be careful not to use this posture too often, at the risk of being perceived as aggressive.
The low head expresses renunciation or defeat. It recalls the abnegation of the schoolboy in front of his teacher or the child facing his parents. She can also betray sadness.